Between the rise of open relationships and a greater acceptance surrounding differences in sexuality, it can often feel like monogamy is on its way out. And with world-famous psychotherapists like Esther Perel declaring that infidelity is hardly a deal-breaker, it’s easy to wonder if vowing to love one partner for the rest of your life is worth it at all.
Of course, everyone’s different. And if monogamy isn’t for you, go ahead and embrace that part of yourself. But Suzan Pileggi Pawelski, positive psychology expert and author of Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts, believes monogamy is still very much en vogue—and that if it is something you desire to have in your life, you absolutely can. You just have to approach it the right way.