Did you grow up watching Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty? Have you spent your life searching for the fairy-tale relationship, believing it must exist somewhere and feeling disappointed because you couldn’t find it? I don’t blame you—this is a fantasy that’s been instilled in many of us for years, and I’m sure the picture-perfect royal wedding didn’t help. As committed as you may be to the fantasy of fairy tales, look around: How many people do you know who live happily ever after? Probably not many, because fairy tales don’t actually work, and trying to live one is not authentic living.
Staying committed to the illusion of the fairy tales can actually ruin your relationships. Either you will pass over people with whom you could create a fulfilling relationship because they don’t measure up, or you won’t be grateful for your current partner because they don’t measure up to your vision of what a fairy tale looks like. Here are three fairy-tale myths that can ruin your relationships and hold you back from love: